Monday 28 November 2011

After 9 years of war,..widows issue


BAGHDAD — Noria Khalaf giggled and then, embarrassed, covered her smile with a fold of her black robes. Yes, she said, she would like to marry again. It had been four years since her husband died, and her children needed a father.
Finding a good man in Baghdad these days is a challenge. Not only is nearly every trailer in this dusty government-run camp on the capital’s outskirts occupied by war widows like her, with nary a man in sight, but across Iraq women now outnumber men.
Some widows ask their brothers to bring friends by the camp, one of two packed trailer camps for widows in Baghdad. But that is not often successful.
The problem is that widows do not make appealing brides, say the women themselves and nongovernmental organizations that assist them.
“Maybe a young woman with only one or two kids can marry again,” Ms. Khalaf said with a sigh; she has six children.
Widows are not a new social problem in Iraq, of course. The war with Iran in the 1980s left tens of thousands of women widowed. Each new calamity that followed created more: the 1991 war with the United States, the failed Shiite uprising that followed, the repressions against Kurds.
And the numbers of widows in Iraq, or as American aid programs prefer to call them, “female heads of households,” increased substantially after the invasion in 2003 and in the years of violence that followed.
The Iraqi Ministry of Planning estimates that about 9 percent of the country’s women, or about 900,000, are widows. A separate government agency, the Ministry of Women, issued a statement in June putting the figure at one million.
Other groups also have estimated the number of women widowed during the nearly nine-year war, which is drawing to an official close with the last American soldiers scheduled to leave in December.
A United Nations report estimated that at the peak of the sectarian violence in 2006, nearly 100 women were widowed each day. The Ministry of Social Affairs pays widow’s benefits to 86,000 women, most of whom, it says, lost their husbands in the latest war.
This figure corresponds with conservative estimates of 103,000 to 113,000 Iraqi deaths in the war, according to a nonprofit group that tallies casualties, Iraq Body Count. The count includes the estimated 10,000 Iraqi soldiers who died in the initial American-led invasion and 10,125 police officers and soldiers who died afterward in fighting with insurgents, along with those killed in sectarian violence.
In possibly one of the last such episodes of the war, last weekend, the Iraqi police said American troops shot and killed two civilians after a roadside bomb exploded near a convoy. The American military denied that soldiers had fired on civilians.
Confronted with so many widows, the Iraqi government is providing only minimal assistance, equivalent to about $80 a month to those widowed in the recent conflict.
“We expected we would get a lot of help from all sides, the Americans, the Iraqi government,” Ms. Khalaf, who lost her husband in 2007, said in an interview in her trailer. “But the fact is, nobody really cares about us.”
The rusting trailer camp, across from a car lot, represents a social challenge that is not easily remedied — not least because the gender imbalance makes it exceedingly unlikely most widows will remarry.
Some American-financed projects have sought to help widows become self-sufficient economically, with some success, according to program reports. A United States Agency for International Development program offers small grants to female heads of households, for example. They can use the money to open small businesses like beauty salons or catering services. Program administrators say many recipients not only have improved their lives materially, but have overcome depression.
The program noted ailments among widows, some of whom had witnessed the killings of their husbands, like difficulty concentrating, numbness and heart palpitations. But after the widows started a small business, the program administrators said, they noticed signs of improvement — “more colorful clothing, smiley faces and for some, louder voices as they speak.”
At the trailer camp, American soldiers used to drive by occasionally in their Humvees, to throw candy and soccer balls to the children, a meager help.
At times, war widows became symbols for opponents of the American military presence in Iraq. When an Iraqi journalist threw his shoes at President George W. Bush in 2008, he shouted that he was doing so on behalf of the war’s widows and orphans. Politicians have recruited widows to appear at political rallies. But a half a dozen widows interviewed at the trailer camp said, most of all, they would like to remarry, however unlikely.
In the meantime, Raja Hashim, 32, said she would focus on her children, all sons. “I don’t need a man because I have three men already,” she said.
Yasir Ghazi contributed reporting.


trivia: adakah anda masih berselera lagi nak makan KFC & nak pakai Levi's ? erkk..:P
throw candy??? give my family backkkkkkkk! hinanya rasa..candy je? soccer ball?? melampaunya...
notes for my istiqamah readers ;) NOTES 

Thursday 17 November 2011

my Naqibah studyTable-10 Ideal Muslims


i had class today 9am till 4.20pm..back home then prepard myself to naqibah & nuqaba' meeting. This monthly meeting finished at 10.40pm (start at about 5.30 +- pm)
yeah, it is sacrifice. Tadhiyah. To build a new person, a quality one is not easy. It needs energy, time, money, and the most crucial thing is thinking.. Way of thinking..

Have u ever heard 'fardhu muslim'?

Tell u, the contents are just like 10 characteristics of ideal muslims=muwasafat tarbiyah

yes, we talked about this many times, but hidayah from Allah is somewhat delayed..many factors in causing delayed..oh i'm talking complicated (this is someone told me, i'm thinking complicated, cannot understand me..haha..ok2..very simple like ABC now..
just talk about our topics,, fardhul muslim..

here, writing in malay..

aqidah yang sejahtera: mempunyai aqidah yang teguh, sentiasa baca buku agama, tingkatkan ilmu agama

ibadah yang betul: mempunyai ilmu dalam ibadah yang dilakukan, melaksanakan ibadah yang wajib dengan sempurna, sentiasa istiqamah dalam melaksanakan ibadah sunat, istiqamah (berterusan) dalam solat berjemaah, qiamullail, baca al-quran, hadis, puasa sunat

akhalak yang mulia: peribadi yang benar, amanah, menepati janji, berani, tegas denan kebenaran, sabar, dll

kuat tubuh badan: menjaga kesihatan diri, pemakanan, amal cara hidup sihat, melazimi bersenam dan sukan

menjaga waktu: berdisplin tinggi, sentiasa tepati waktu, menyusun jadual harian, mingguan, bulanan, hindari dari buang masa, jaga waktu solat

mampu berdikari: menunaikan tanggungjawab dengan penuh kesungguhan, mengurus diri dan tugas dengan baik, mampu urus kewangan

bermanfaat kepada orang lain: menyediakan diri untuk membantu orang lain, mengeali sahabat2 lain, ringan tulang dan sentiasa membantu dalam kerja kemasyarakatan

berpengetahuan tinggi: pengetahuan agama yang baik, pakar dalam bidangpengkhususan masing-masin, ilmutentang gerakan Islam dan siasah, pengetahuan tentang isu semasa terutamanya yang berkaitan dengan muslimin

melawan hawa nafsu: menyusun gerak kerja harian, memerhati etiap perbuatan, menilai perbuatan/ tingkah laku/gerak kerja yang telah dilaksanakan, memberi hukuman terhadap kesalahan dan kesilapan yang dilakukan...

em ngantuknyee....ape lagi ye..emm

oh, yg last sekali: tersusun dalam urusan: menyusun setiap tanggungjawab dan kewajipan, memahami dan susun kerja mengikut keutamaan, penting dan segera, segera tapi tak penting, penting tapi tak segera...dll, tidak berlebihan dalam suatu kerja sehingga mengabaikan kewajipan yang lain, tidak bertangguh..

modul untuk bulan November untuk naqibah n nuqaba' bentang dah pun ada di tangan..alhamdulillah, bertambah mantap..insyaallah, doa moga usrah pun lebih mantap, dari segi kualiti dan kuantitinya..takut juga bila kita sampaikan sesuatu, ahli usrah tak faham dan terus lari meninggalkan usrah..sayang seribu kali sayang...hanya kerana langkah dakwah yang sedikit tersilap, besar impaknya kepada orang lain....
seminar perubatan dan ibadah pesakit: pembedahan di Iskandariah(Alex), Mesir 5 dan 6 nov. 6 tu da raya haji..

teringat ketika dulu, di Maahad muhammadi, saya memegang usrah ketika tingkatan tiga..umur yang saya kira sangat muda dan banyak yang perlu dipelajari..sehari demi sehari...tapi di Maahad saya tidaklah menonjol sangat pun..biasa2 je..cuma mungkin nampak baik sikit, jadi naqibah sehinggalah tingakatan 5....dan bila di tahun 2 di universiti sekali lagi dilantik jadi naqibah..saya buta...

ye, buta, tak tahu usrah saya nak menuju ke mana...di maahad, kebanyakan ahli usrah sudah tahu apa itu usrah..tapi di alam universiti, ramai yang tidak tahu..perkara yang dulu-dulu terpaksa diulangi....dan saya buta dengan cara...cara untuk bawa usrah.buntu..

bila belajar medik, selalu kena treat the cause, treat the cause..then treat the cause lagi..
saya cuba kaitkan dengan medik-usrah..
bila ada tumor,  take biopsy and do investigation...
when necrosis and gangrene, what to do??

when the patient hypoglycemic coma, then what he or she may suffer? sign and symptoms??

.ye, saya tahu, saya mesti sentiasa ada pembaharuan...buku/cara/online saya baca..insyaallah, saya masih belajar hingga sekarang....tak senang untuk dakwah, tak senang untuk menyeru ke arah kebaikan.....dan saya sendiri ditarbiyah dan mentarbiyah...

alhamdulillah, mungkin dulu saya tidak nampak..sekarang skop itu lebih luas, disamping ambil pengalaman orang terdahulu...

jadi karangan...ehehei..lupa nak bagitahu, saya exam hari ni yeayy! :P

ok la...esok kelas..kawan yang posting lain da masuk operation thatre da..saya forensic, masuk muzium je, alaa, yg banyak jar tu...hehe..ok ;)

surat dari unit akademik PCZ. moga meningkat lagi tahun depan.amin2

di muzium forensik,

pagi raya di Iskandariah (raya haji kat alex tahun ni) ;) comey sungguh langit tuhey buak..subhanallah

'perkakas' seminar

mahal sewa dewan ni..better not to know la u all..mahal ngatt..(seminar, Alex)

trivia~ ve   ry      go    od n  i g h t;) bc 3 kul sebelum tdo..salam :)

Friday 11 November 2011

The Story of the Boy and the King (from Surah Burooj)-Imâm Ibn Kathîr

lihasiinah bass! ;)


assalamualaikum readers. Story that people always talk about it. It is present in video too. You can search it on youtube
happy friday ;)

The Story of the Boy and the King (from Surah Burooj)
by Imâm Ibn Kathîr
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Imam Ahmad recorded from Suhayb that the Messenger of Allah said:
Among the people who came before you, there was a king who had a sorcerer, and when that sorcerer became old, he said to the king, "I have become old and my time is nearly over, so please send me a boy whom I can teach magic.'' So, he sent him a boy and the sorcerer taught him magic. Whenever the boy went to the sorcerer, he sat with a monk who was on the way and listened to his speech and admired them. So, when he went to the sorcerer, he passed by the monk and sat there with him; and on visiting the sorcerer the latter would thrash him. So, the boy complained about this to the monk. The monk said to him, "Whenever you are afraid of the sorcerer, say to him: `My people kept me busy.' And whenever you are afraid of your people, say to them: `The sorcerer kept me busy.''' So the boy carried on like that (for some time). Then a huge terrible creature appeared on the road and the people were unable to pass by. The boy said, "Today I shall know whether the sorcerer is better or the monk is better.'' So, he took a stone and said, "O Allah! If the deeds and actions of the monk are liked by You better than those of the sorcerer, then kill this creature so that the people can cross (the road).''Then he struck it with a stone killing it and the people passed by on the road.
The boy came to the monk and informed him about it. The monk said to him, "O my son! Today you are better than I, and you have achieved what I see! You will be put to trial. And in case you are put to trial, do not inform (them) about me.''The boy used to treat the people suffering from congenital blindness, leprosy, and other diseases. There was a courtier of the king who had become blind and he heard about the boy. He came and brought a number of gifts for the boy and said, "All these gifts are for you on the condition that you cure me.'' The boy said, "I do not cure anybody; it is only Allah who cures people. So, if you believe in Allah and supplicate to Him, He will cure you.'' So, he believed in and supplicated to Allah, and Allah cured him.
Later, the courtier came to the king and sat at the place where he used to sit before. The king said, "Who gave you back your sight''The courtier replied, "My Lord.'' The king then said, "I did'' The courtier said, "No, my Lord and your Lord - Allah'' The king said, "Do you have another Lord beside me'' The courtier said, "Yes, your Lord and my Lord is Allah.'' The king tortured him and did not stop until he told him about the boy. So, the boy was brought to the king and he said to him,"O boy! Has your magic reached to the extent that you cure congenital blindness, leprosy and other diseases''He said, " I do not cure anyone. Only Allah can cure.'' The king said, "Me'' The boy replied, "No.'' The king asked, "Do you have another Lord besides me''The boy answered, " My Lord and your Lord is Allah.'' So, he tortured him also until he told about the monk. Then the monk was brought to him and the king said to him, "Abandon your religion.'' The monk refused and so the king ordered a saw to be brought which was placed in the middle of his head and he fell, sawn in two. Then it was said to the man who used to be blind, "Abandon your religion.'' He refused to do so, and so a saw was brought and placed in the middle of his head and he fell, sawn in two. Then the boy was brought and it was said to him, "Abandon your religion.'' He refused and so the king sent him to the top of such and such mountain with some people. He told the people, "Ascend up the mountain with him till you reach its peak, then see if he abandons his religion; otherwise throw him from the top.'' They took him and when they ascended to the top, he said, " O Allah! Save me from them by any means that You wish.'' So, the mountain shook and they all fell down and the boy came back walking to the king. The king said, "What did your companions (the people I sent with you) do'' The boy said, "Allah saved me from them.'' So, the king ordered some people to take the boy on a boat to the middle of the sea, saying, "If he renounces his religion (well and good), but if he refuses, drown him.'' So, they took him out to sea and he said, "O Allah! Save me from them by any means that you wish.'' So they were all drowned in the sea.
Then the boy returned to the king and the king said, "What did your companions do'' The boy replied, "Allah, saved me from them.'' Then he said to the king, "You will not be able to kill me until you do as I order you. And if you do as I order you, you will be able to kill me.'' The king asked, "And what is that'' The boy said, "Gather the people in one elevated place and tie me to the trunk of a tree; then take an arrow from my quiver and say: `In the Name of Allah, the Lord of the boy.' If you do this, you will be able to kill me.'' So he did this, and placing an arrow in the bow, he shot it, saying, "In the Name of Allah, the Lord of the boy.'' The arrow hit the boy in the temple, and the boy placed his hand over the arrow wound and died. The people proclaimed, "We believe in the Lord of the boy!'’ Then it was said to the king, "Do you see what has happened That which you feared has taken place. By Allah, all the people have believed (in the Lord of the boy).''So he ordered that ditches be dug at the entrances to the roads and it was done, and fires were kindled in them. Then the king said, "Whoever abandons his religion, let him go, and whoever does not, throw him into the fire.'' They were struggling and scuffling in the fire, until a woman and her baby whom she was breast feeding came and it was as if she was being somewhat hesitant of falling into the fire, so her baby said to her,"Be patient mother! For verily, you are following the truth!'')
Muslim also recorded this Hadith at the end of the Sahih. Muhammad bin Ishaq bin Yasar related this story in his book of Sirah in another way that has some differences from that which has just been related. Then, after Ibn Ishaq explained that the people of Najran began following the religion of the boy after his murder, which was the religion of Christianity, he said, "Then (the king) Dhu Nuwas came to them with his army and called them to Judaism. He gave them a choice to either accept Judaism or be killed, so they chose death. Thus, he had a ditch dug and burned (some of them) in the fire (in the ditch), while others he killed with the sword. He made an example of them (by slaughtering them) until he had killed almost twenty thousand of them. It was about Dhu Nuwas and his army that Allah revealed to His Messenger :

(Cursed were the People of the Ditch. Of fire fed with fuel. When they sat by it. And they witnessed what they were doing against the believers. And they had no fault except that they believed in Allah, the Almighty, Worthy of all praise! To Whom belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth! And Allah is Witness over everything.) (85:4-9)

This is what Muhammad bin Ishaq said in his book of Sirah -- that the one who killed the People of the Ditch was Dhu Nuwas, and his name was Zur`ah. In the time of his kingdom he was called Yusuf. He was the son of Tuban As`ad Abi Karib, who was the Tubba` who invaded Al-Madinah and put the covering over the Ka`bah. He kept two rabbis with him from the Jews of Al-Madinah. After this some of the people of Yemen accepted Judaism at the hands of these two rabbis, as Ibn Ishaq mentions at length. So Dhu Nuwas killed twenty thousand people in one morning in the Ditch. Only one man among them escaped. He was known as Daws Dhu Tha`laban. He escaped on a horse and they set out after him, but they were unable to catch him. He went to Caesar, the emperor of Ash-Sham. So, Caesar wrote to An-Najashi, the King of Abyssinia. So, he sent with him an army of Abyssinian Christians, who were lead by Aryat and Abrahah. They rescued Yemen from the hands of the Jews. Dhu Nuwas tried to flee but eventually fell into the sea and drowned. After this, the kingdom of Abyssinia remained under Christian power for seventy years. Then the power was divested from the Christians by Sayf bin Dhi Yazin Al-Himyari when Kisra, the king of Persia sent an army there (to Yemen). He (the king) sent with him (Sayf Al-Himyari) those people who were in the prisons, and they were close to seven hundred in number. So, he (Sayf Al-Himyari) conquered Yemen with them and returned the kingdom back to the people of Himyar (Yemenis).
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source: abdurrahman

Monday 7 November 2011

Just to Defend Myself


I not hate all Egyptian men..but certain Egyptian men
why? because I got headache when I dealt with some of them
and now, I threw out my anger
just to say that, i was capable to face him, to scold him
don't think the ladies have no power and also we are Malaysian
we smaller than you, and we afraid of you...huhu..you wrong
very wrong
we are also human being, we have our fundamental rights like European, Caucasian, American....
why treat us like we are strangers to you?
we are also muslims

two years more here...sabar sabar...

why you are so stubborn? I really regret what you have done to me..
it is not cheap
it is meant to me
really....

barang saya hilang, mudah-mudahan akan jumpa balik..amin ya rabb

trivia~ memang betul orang kata, kalau bekerja dengan sorang orang arab, rasa macam bekerja dengan sepuluh orang Melayu..



Tuesday 1 November 2011

Cinta Tak Masuk Akal




Seorang ayah pergi merantau ke luar negara untuk mencari rezeki meninggalkan seorang isteri dan tiga orang anak. Dia seorang yang penyayang dan sangat dikasihi dan dihormati pula oleh ahli keluarganya.

Setelah keadaannya di rantau orang agak stabil, dia menghantar surat pertama kepada keluarganya. Mereka sangat gembira menerima surat yang sungguh bermakna dari seorang ayah yang sangat dikasihi dan disayangi. Sampul surat itu ditenung berulang kali. Masing-masing memeluk dan mengucup surat tersebut bagai tidak mahu dilepaskan. Kemudian surat yang berharga itu disimpan di dalam pembalut sutera yang indah. Sekali sekala surat itu dikeluarkan dari pembalutnya untuk dibersihkan daripada debu dan habuk. Kemudian meletakkan kembali di dalam pembalutnya.

Kemudian tiba pula surat kedua, ketiga dan seterusnya. Semuanya disimpan dan dijaga rapi seperti surat pertama.

Beberapa tahun berlalu…

Tibalah masa untuk si ayah pulang menemui keluarga tercinta. Alangkah terkejutnya dia apabila mendapati tiada seorangpun yang tinggal kecuali anak bongsunya. Dengan cemas dia bertanya:

- Mana ibumu?

- Ibu ditimpa sakit yang amat teruk. Kami tidak ada wang untuk membiayai rawatannya sehingga akhirnya dia meninggal dunia.
- Kenapa begitu? Apakah kamu tidak membuka suratku yang pertama? Di dalamnya terkandung sejumlah wang yang banyak untuk perbelanjaan kamu?

- Tidak!

- Di mana pula abangmu?

- Dia telah terpengaruh dengan kawan-kawan sebaya yang jahat. Selepas kematian ibu, tidak ada siapa yang mampu menasihatinya. Sekarang dia sudah jadi sebahagian daripada mereka.

- (Ayah semakin hairan) Kenapa begitu? Aku telah tulis dengan panjang lebar menasihati kamu agar berhati-hati memilih kawan. Jangan berkawan dengan orang jahat kerana lama kelamaan kita juga akan jadi jahat! Aku juga meminta agar abangmu itu mengikut aku di rantau orang. Apakah kamu tidak membaca suratku?

- Tidak!

- لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله

- Kakakmu di mana?

- Dia pernah tulis surat kepada ayah meminta nasihat tentang seorang pemuda yang melamarnya. Sekarang dia telah berkawin dengan pemuda itu. Tapi malangnya dia tidak bahagia. Hidupnya menderita didera sepanjang masa lahir dan batin.

- Bukankah aku telah jawab surat itu menasihatinya agar jangan terima lamaran pemuda itu? Aku telah ingatkan, jangan pillih pasangan berdasarkan harta dan kedudukan. Tapi pilihlah berdasarkan agama, akhlak dan keturunan! Kamu tidak baca semua surat-suratku?

- Tidak! Kami simpan surat-surat ayah di dalam pembalut sutera yang cantik, kami usap dan cium surat itu sebagai tanda sayang dan rindu kami kepada ayah! Tetapi kami tidak membacanya…

Tidak ada siapa yang percaya akan kebenaran cerita ini. Mungkin ada yang akan berkata ia tidak masuk akal sama sekali!

Namun sedarkah kita bahawa inilah kisah benar. Kisah yang tak masuk akal inilah yang berlaku dalam kehidupan umat Islam hari ini?

Kita menerima SURAT dari Yang Maha Mengetahui, Maha Pengasih, Maha Penyayang, Maha Memerhati lagi Maha Bijaksana. SURAT yang mengandungi panduan, ajaran serta petunjuk dalam segenap bidang kehidupan. Tetapi sejauh mana kita membaca, memahami dan mengikuti panduan yang diberi?

Maka jadilah apa yang terjadi! Umat Islam mati dibunuh saban hari, di sana sini. Jenayah meningkat, keruntuhan akhlak mencemaskan di semua peringkat, wanita-wanita didera dan diperkosa tanpa mengira tua atau muda, bayi-bayi yang tidak berdosa dibuang merata-rata, dan bermacam-macam kejahatan, maksiat dan kemungkaran yang menjijikkan.

Semuanya berpunca daripada tidak membaca dan mengambil pengajaran daripada SURAT yang dikirim oleh Pencipta Yang Maha Esa Yang Amat Sayang kepada makhluk-Nya!






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(1) orang-orang yang beriman, (2) dan yang beramal soleh 
(3) dan yang berpesan2 pada kebenaran (4) dan yang berpesan2 pada kesabaran". 
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