Monday, 20 July 2015

Mixing and Isolation (Part 1) (note sharing)


This is another part of my notes which is very crucial to let other ppl know too
well sharing is caring =)
any comment i will not ignore. i will reply back  insyaallah

All praise is due to Allah and may Allah's peace and blessings be upon the prophet Muhammad. () and on all those who follow the path of righteousness until the Last Day.
The practice of mixing and isolation—these are two elements that we find from various statements of the Prophet Muhammad () with regards to the spiritual life of the believer.
And it’s a hadeeth which was narrated by ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (), in which he said [and this is a well-known hadeeth],
“The Muslim who mixes with people and patiently bears their harm is better than the Muslim who does not mix with people nor bear their harm.”
Collected by at-Tirmithee and Ibn Maajah and authenticated in Saheeh Sunan at-Tirmithee, vol. 2, pp. 306-7, no. 2035.
There are other narrations of it in which on other occasions the Prophet Muhammad () said virtually the same thing, but he may have changed some of the wording slightly. He said in another narration, for example, “”—“the believer who mixes with people is better (more beloved to Allah) than the believer who doesn’t mix with people and bear their harm.” So this hadeeth basically has an encouragement for mixing with people and a discouragement for isolation…for isolating one’s self. We are talking about spiritual matters…to develop one’s self spiritually.

There is another hadeeth in which the Prophet () speaking about times that would come…as society becomes more corrupted, etc, he was narrated as saying by Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudree (), “Soon there will come a time when the best wealth a Muslim will have will be sheep which he will take to the mountain tops and places where rain falls, fleeing for the sake of his religious commitment from tribulation.” And in another narration when he was asked about who are the best of people, he said, “A believer in a mountain pass who worships Allah and leaves the people alone.” So we have that set of narrations, which seem to indicate preferability of isolation and then this very strong narration where he openly is saying that mixing with people and bearing their harm is better. Again, these ahaadeeth (as we spoke before) when we look at the various statements of the Prophet () we have to look at the full range. Because had we read one only, or other of the ahaadeeth, we could have come to the conclusion straight off the top that it’s not good to be alone—the other one: it’s better to be alone. But we needed to put them both together and look at the context in which they are being said to understand that ultimately the issue of being alone or mixing with people will vary according to the circumstance…according to the person involved/the times that it’s taking place/the locations…a number of different factors there can either make the situation one where it is obligatory for you to mix with people…recommended/disliked or prohibited…depending on the circumstance.

So as has been pointed out, in a circumstance (we take the general circumstances today) where people have some consciousness of Allah—there is some safety in society; we are not in a situation of trials and tribulations…you are able to communicate with people/convey advice to the general public, etc.—in such circumstances, if you have knowledge which can benefit the people then it is obligatory for you to mix with the people. This is when the main hadeeth (hadeeth number 99) comes into play. You have knowledge which can benefit people—there is no danger in the process, then it is obligatory on you. This is what you should be doing…you should mix with people. And he said, “…and be patient with their harm” because in the process of mixing with people—of course, there’s going to be evil elements there. You’re dealing in the society, there’s good and there’s evil. And if you are mixing with that society with the idea of trying to promote the good, then the forces of evil will be arrayed against you—because the forces of evil perceive what you perceive as good as being evil. They are trying to promote their own view (which is an evil view)—they present that as the good and what you are promoting as evil. Say, just as a simple point, where Islam stands for chastity (we were speaking about this earlier—importance of chastity. Islam is strongly against extramarital relations). In the past, this was a good thing; most societies considered it to be a good thing. Some, even in Europe (today when we think of the West being so licentious—in places wide open anybody can do anything) in the past they had a thing called a “chastity belt” which was a metal contraption which was put around the waist of the woman, covering her private parts so that she would remain chaste at the time of marriage…to ensure it. The key is given to the husband…he unlocks it…obviously they had a high premium on chastity, to go to those kinds of extremes. So that was the past, society has changed—secular democratic society…whatever the people feel is good; is good, whatever they don’t feel is good; is not good. So the whole scale of good and evil now changes. Good is “free/freedom/free sex” (that’s how it used to be called in the old days—free sex.) With the development of the condom and contraceptive pills, then the consequences of sex outside of marriage were removed. The big one was the girl getting pregnant, it was a huge problem—so you solved that problem…so free sex. So adultery is no longer a crime, take it off the books. Fornication—take it off the books. So those people who say you should not…now they are looked at as extreme. These are extreme attitudes. So in that society, where you might be promoting chastity…sex after marriage, the solution for AIDS…is not just “get condoms”. The solution for AIDS is stop “free sex”. If sex remains within marriage—AIDS will not spread…very little of it—the cases of it that spread because of transfusion is very, very small. The greater proportion for the spread of AIDS amongst heterosexuals is from promiscuity. A man having so many female partners, a woman having so many male partners—this is the main cause. So obviously, you see that’s the main cause…then the main solution is: correct it! That’s what Islam says: correct it. Now if you try to promote that, you will have an army arrayed against you because that is no longer considered “so good a thing” anymore. This is why our kids going to school now are threatened. Some sisters were just
telling me about how they had to pull their son out of school because the girls were on him…they would just not let him go. His name was ‘Umar, and because he wouldn’t go along with the girls and hang out…girlfriend/boyfriend thing, they started calling him “Gaymar”. This was only about an hour ago a sister was telling me that. She decided to take her son out of school and home-school him instead. Because it is something hurtful to him, etc. Why should he have to suffer that? This is the reality of the schools. So when we stand up for that wholesome way of marriage and sex in marriage and keeping things within limits is now looked at as being antiquated/oppressive/people’s freedoms are now limited…all these kind of things. So the bottom line is that when one takes that responsibility of carrying wholesome values/calling people to what is good/etc., then the forces that are opposed…the forces of evil will be arrayed against you. So you’re going to have to suffer—whether it’s the words of people, what they write about you. Maybe physical harm can even come. When different issues arise…they’ll paint things on your door, break your windows, all kinds of things can happen…all of this. But you have to be prepared, that what you are doing…what you are calling to is righteousness and goodness and then you have to be patient to suffer the consequences of that call. And this is what was exemplified by the Prophets, all of them. They called to righteousness and goodness and they suffered virtually in all cases—they suffered. But that should not deter us from understanding that that is still the best way…that is the better way.

As the Prophet Mohammad () had said, “The Muslim who mixes with people and patiently bears their harm is better than the Muslim who does not mix with people nor bear their harm”. As we said, this is in the circumstance where one is in a position to convey the message. They are not being hindered; not being threatened, etc. So the principle of patience comes to bear and that we know is among the higher qualities of the believers. That when one takes that route, then one is challenged to be patient and that when one responds and is patient in those circumstances we know that it raises our spiritual status. So we will grow in spirit in the midst of that struggle. Like the iron or the gold that is mixed in with ore…when you put the heat to it, then the pure metal comes out. This is a basic principle for faith. And that’s why the Prophet () had said, “The people who receive the most trials in life are the Prophets, then those most like them, then those most like them.” The Prophets of God receive the most trials. Normally we think of trials and tribulations as something for bad people. But this is not really the fact. The fact is that the Prophets of God, they receive the greatest trials. And that elevated their own status spiritually and they became the examples for the believers down through the ages.
So the basic recommendation then, as we said, is to be patient and we know so many verses in the Qur’an in which Allah () has spoken about those who are patient, saying (for example),

“Give glad tidings [of Paradise] for those who are patient”.
Those who when calamity befalls them…”
They say we belong to Allah, and to Him we must return”. [Al-Baqarah 155-156]
I know we normally are just saying this when somebody dies, but actually when you read the verse it doesn’t say “when somebody dies”; it just says “whenever a calamity befalls them”…whenever trials/difficulties…they are faced with that—it’s
“We belong to Allah and to Him we must return. This is to remind ourselves we belong to God and we must return to him. Those trials are only temporary trials so we will be patient with it. And ultimately we know in those trials that there is good. Because if God has destined a particular trial for us, it means He has destined it for something good. The trial of Satan and Adam and Eve—it was a trial. Satan tricked Adam to eat from the tree. And we learn as we read that story…we learn from the story the methodology of the evil, the satanic forces and how it operates. But primarily, when Adam ate from the tree, he disobeyed God. And what was the good that came from that trial? Repentance…he laid down the practical principle of repentance as the basic means of salvation—salvation through repentance…because prior to the trial, Allah had already taught Adam and Eve how to repent because otherwise, it doesn’t make sense. Common sense tell us for God to have put them on trial and not taught them how to deal with that trial when they fail…because before He created them He already knew they were going to fail. So He already gave them the means of removing the sin from themselves. So once they disobeyed God, it became exposed. What their response was was to turn back to God in repentance.

These were the words that God had taught Adam and Eve. “Our Lord, we have oppressed ourselves. And if you do not forgive us and have mercy on us, we will be of those who are lost.” [Surah Al-A’raf : 23]

So when those sincere words of repentance were turned to God, God forgave them. So that good which came out…that good, righteous act of Adam and Eve in turning back to God in repentance; that was a huge, righteous act. So powerful, as the Prophet () 
described it

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Monday, 13 July 2015

Hadeeth Classification (Part 1) (Note sharing)


sedikit dari buku hadith yg saya belajar
alhamdulillah atas nikmat ilmu sains hadith yg imam dulu2 buat, generasi dulu usahakan. orang tak dapat nak seleweng. tak macam bible n tawrah dah kena seleweng habis dah... orang tokok tambah. sebab tu bahaya bid'ah ni jadi kita ni mcm blur blur tak tau yg mana asalnya, yang mana sunatnya? sebab orang da tokok tambah. 
Hadeeth Saheeh

Conditions of Sihhah

A hadith must meet the following five criteria in order to be accepted according to Islaamic law as a source of legal ordinance.

1. Ittisaal as-Sanad (Continuity of the chain of transmitters)
The chain of Rawwaah (narrators or transmitters) who are relating the Matn (text), has to be unbroken for the hadeeth to be considered. That is none of the transmittors must be missing from the chain and each narrator, Raawi, has to have met the transmitter directly preceding him as well as the one directly following him. Each Raawi has to be a known individual also, otherwisehe is classified as majhool (unknown) and the sanad is considered broken.

2. ‘Adaalah (integrity)
The integrity of the narrators is the second key condition for a hadeeth to be considered valid. By integrity we mean that the narrator was a practicing Muslim and was not known to have done any of the major (forbidden things) if he was a known liar he is classified as kaththaab and the hadeeth which he has transmitted is classified as da‘eef. These are the conditions verified through the biographical science of hadeeth Kutub ar-Rijaal.

3. Dabt (accuracy)
The accuracy of the text is determined by two factors either of which is sufficient by itself
(a) Dabt as-Sadr (Soundness of memory)
Each narrator must be known for his ability to memorize and repeat with a high degree of
accuracy if he had a tendency to repeat hadeeth in a number of different ways such a hadeeth in
classified as Mudtarib (confused) and any other hadeeth which he may narrate will be classified ad Da‘eef
(b) Dabt al-Kitaabah (Written accuracy)
Each narrator who does not fulfill precondition “a”, must be known for recording his haetth in books accurately and his narrations only be from his books, these two preconditions (a,b) are also verified by Kutub ar-Rijaal.

4. Ghayr Shaathth (conformity)
It is critical that the hadeeth confirmed with similar hadeeth narrated on the same topic whose
chains are stronger. If the test of a hadeeth contradicts that of other well-known texts whose
chain of narration is stronger, it is classified (exceptional) which is one of the categories of
hadith dae’ef.

5. Laa ‘Illah (absence of hidden defect)
The hidden defect is one that causes the hadeeth to appear to be sound and only become evident
after deep investigation. For a hadeeth to be considered sound (saheeh) it has to be free of hidden defects.
A hadeeth which fulfills all the five conditions of sihhah is referred to as a hadeeth Saheeh. Such a hadeeth can be used to establish points of Islaamic law and, if it isn’t abrogated, it must
be accepted and applied. The ruling of a hadeeth saheeh can only be superceded by that of another hadeeth saheeh stronger than it.
The hadeeth Saheeh may be further subdivided into Saheeh li Thaatih and Saheeh li Ghayrih. Hadeeths fulfilling the five conditions completely were also referred to as Saheeh liThaatih. That is, it is saheeh by itself, without any external considerations. The Saheeh liGhayrih is a hadeeth hasan which has been elevated to the status of saheeh due to supporting

Hadeeth Hasan
A hadeeth is considered Hasan if it fulfills all the requirements of Sihhah except Dabt (accuracy). If the memory of a narrator was only considered fair (sadooq), that is, he was known to make a few mistakes. The hadeeth is lowered from the level of saheeh to the level of Hasan. In the early days, there was no distinction made between the hadeeth saheeh and the hadeeth
hasan. The hadeeth hasan is valid for establishing points of Islaamic law and should not be rejected unless abrogated or superseded by a hadeeth saheeh. This category is also called Hasan
li Thaatih as distinct from a second category of hasan hadeeths called Hasan li Ghayrih. Hadeeth Hasan li Ghayrih
If the narrator belonged to a lower grade (i.e. grades 5 or 6 rendering the hadeeth da‘eef) and there are other hadeeths supporting it in form or sense, it would be reclassified as hasan li
ghayrih. It should be noted that the overall acceptability of an isnaad is based on its weakest link. Consequently, if all of the narrators were highly reliable (thiqah) and one, anywhere in the
chain was classified as a liar (kaththaab), the hadeeth would be classified as fabricated, even if proved authentic by other isnaads.

Hadeeth Da‘eef
This is a hadeeth in which any one or more of the five conditions of Sihhah have not been met. It is also referred to in classical works as al-Khabar al-Mardood (Rejected Narrations). The inauthentic hadeeth is one in which the truth of the report is highly unlikely due to the loss of one or more of the conditions for the acceptance. Some da‘eef hadeeths may be reclassified due
to supportive factors while others are totally rejected. The inauthentic hadeeth may be further
subdivided into different categories based on which of the five criteria has not been met.
Causes of Rejection:
The factors which cause a hadeeth to be rejected all fall under two main headings: 1. A break in
the chain of narration or 2. A defect in the narrator himself

The breaks in the chain of narration can be classified according to appearance into two categories: Obvious breaks and Hidden breaks.

A. Obvious breaks refers to those isnaads in which a narrator did not come in contact with his teacher due either to the difference in generations, making it impossible for them to meet,or due to him not ever meeting with the teacher according to records. Because of that the researcher in the area of narrators needs to know the biographies of the narrators themselves since they contain the dates of birth and death, time period in which they
studied, their journeys etc. Hadeeth scholars have coined four names for these categories
according to the place where the break occurs or the number of narrators deleted: (i)
Mu’allaq, (ii) Mursal, (iii) Mu’dal and (iv) Munqati’.

B. Hidden breaks refers to isnaads in which a narrator is deleted or hidden in a subtle fashion
not readily visible from a study of the individual biographies. This category has two main
forms: (1) Mudallas and (2) Mursal Khafee.

to be continued...

Resepi Syawerma Burger Sarra


hari ni kita akan review resepi syawerma
cerita di sebalik macam mana I boleh wat syawerma ni hehe

masa tu, 2 tahun lepas , I n hubby kt Jordan, dua2 student dua2 takdok duit
then afterthat I fikir nak masak ape la lunch ni
takde ape dalam peti. kesian kn..da bayar sewa rumah rm1200 da, area rumah org berada haha. I pun dulu pelik nape pergi sewa rumah tu dlu.myb sbb dapur dia besar kot .kihkih dgn kerusi sofa dia nampak empuk kikiki..okeyy...dlm tupperware beras da sikit, buka peti ade daging burger, roti burger takde la puleerr..

menggunakan kepakaran yg ada, menggunakan apa2 bahan asalkan menjadi, which is ape pun boleh jadi.. ambil daging burger, tibai tibai tibai then jadi la syawerma hahaa

jeng jeng jeng...

resepi syawerma burger sarra
dicipta oleh: sarra ummu abd al-rahman

perap 30 minit
5 keping daging burger
garam sikit je
2 tbs rempah all spice @ rempah syawerma
1/4 tbs freshly ground cardamom
3 tbs yoghurt
1 tsp vinegar

utk ditumis
3 biji bawang merah (kecil) -- klu tanah arab, jordan n mesir bawang sebesar samsung s3,so guna separuh je

bahan lain
roti syawerma aka lempeng nipis (buat masa kita perap daging)
sos tomato
2 biji tomato

1.ambik bwg, tumiskan dgn sedikit olive oil
2. masukkan daging burger yg da diperap tadi.lenyek2 daging tu sampai bentuk dia mcm dgg cincang. masuk sikit air dlm 3/4 cawan, kacau2 sikit. tutup dgn penutup periuk. cook until brown @ sure da daging tu masak, dlm 20 minit tu konfem masak.pastikan air pun kering, klu ade pun, lembap2 sikit pun okey.kaup balikkan la ye.

cara nak sediakan

ambik lempeng nipis tu, oles mayonis, daging burger, tomato, hirisan bwg besar, dan last sekali sos tomato. ni dia da xde bentuk da, rasa burger pun da tenggelam sbb rempah syawerma@all spice yg mengancam hihi

gambar forever alone syawerma xde..gambar berjemaah je..comel dak my hubby lipat syawerma.
in photo: beef storagnoff spaghetti & fried calamari with spice :)

alhamdulillah this recipe is one of my hubby's fav food ...dari hari pertama tercipta sampai sekarang..mesti request nak syawerma...hehe..dia kata syawerma I buat ni lebih sedap, lebih lembut dari syawerma originally made in Jordan haha. betray negara sendiri haha :D

Sunday, 12 July 2015

Mistakes in Marriage

Alhamdulillah sekarang ni da jadi trend kahwin muda mcm org dulu2..umur 19tahun pun da nak kahwin..ada org cakap maybe antara faktornya adalah drama2 di kaca tv..sebab nampak semua Okey. Gaduh2 pun manja,romantik,baik,still caring..tapi adakah betul sebegitu rupa? Saya dlu pun ade jugakla terpengaruh dgn drama melayu mcm ni.Haha..selepas kahwin barula nampak clearly What ia all marriage about..

Well,semua orang cakap psl kawin.betul bagus kahwin muda..tak nak ckp banyak, let's see What is the biggest mistake that leading to a divorce.

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You ignore issues as a couple. This is probably the worst thing you can do. Sticking your head in the sand around the issues you may have in your relationship is not the way to go. The unexpressed feelings will slowly but surely start eating away at you, and over a period of time, what looked like small annoyances will transform into massive resentments. (And then before you know it, you're hating your partner because you cannot put up with anything anymore.) I know this very well, as I have been there myself. Before my divorce, this is the exact state of denial that led to the demise of our relationship. I did not know how to express how I was feeling and my ex-husband simply didn't want to hear it. The problem got bigger and bigger, and before we knew it, we stopped trusting one another and the relationship broke down completely.
Instead, deal with the issues as they come up. Just like when you clean your home, if you keep dusting away the cobwebs, you will create a consistently clean environment.
. You don't work on the relationship. Somehow, we seem to think intimate relationships will run on their own fuel without putting much effort into them. This is simply not true! A relationship needs work — just as a car needs fine-tuning.
At the very least, understand how relationships work; and at the very most, work on yourself and what you bring to the relationship. Healthy and fulfilling relationships happen from the inside out. I made this mistake and paid dearly for it. I kept wanting to change my ex-husband, thinking he was the problem, when in fact, it was me all along! Work on you first; learn about how relationships work and the rest will follow.
You don't learn how to effectively communicate. As I've already mentioned, good communication is one of the cornerstones of creating a fulfilling relationship. However, there's a right way to fight and a wrong way to fight. Resorting to "blame and shame" tactics will destroy any trust you've built and while it's a normal defense mechanism, all it does is result in the attacked spouse shutting down.
In my first marriage, I used this tactic all the time, which only caused heartache and disconnection. Learn to communicate clearly, listen intently and give yourself the time and space to do so safely. If not, divorce will be imminent.
. You don't spend enough time together. One of the other cornerstones to any successful relationship is giving yourself the time to connect with one another. If you are not giving yourself the time to do this, then you will feel disconnected and distant.
I see so many couples putting everything else as more important so that they can give it to the relationship. The ironic thing is that the one thing that would fuel their relationships is the one thing that is not given — time. This is also one of the biggest errors I made in my own marriage. Before I knew it, my ex-husband and I were completely disconnected and were living parallel lives, which exacerbated our differences as opposed to highlighting our similarities.
Go for walks together, put time in the diary for a date together, go away without mobile phones together. Talk, laugh and above all, create memories if you want to avoid going down the rocky road of divorce.
You don't delegate jobs. Living with another person can drive us insane. Messy people end up marrying neat people and unhealthy people marry healthy people. Whatever the scenario, there are going to be guaranteed differences in how two people live. What ends up happening is one person in a relationship feels resentful over the fact that they had to carry the load in their relationship.
For example, arguments about cleaning used to happen regularly in my household. Now, we just delegate the work to someone who loves doing it! She gets what she wants and we do too. Does it cost money? Sure it does. Does it save us time with our arguments? Yes, and we'll end up saving on divorce bills too.

Somewhere written into a human's genetic code lie the instruction that when a person isn't happy, he or she is supposed to force his/her significant to make the changes required to make the unhappy person happy again. This usually takes the form of complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, 
punishing and/or bribing.
When one or both people in the marriage are attempting to coerce each other into doing things they don't want to do for their partner's happiness, it is a recipe for disaster. When you are unhappy in a relationship, it's okay to ask for the change you want. But, if your partner doesn't oblige you, then you become responsible for your own happiness

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